Post Abortion

Who are these women? 

They are single women, married women and divorced women. They are your sisters, your cousins, your aunts, your mothers, your neighbors, your co-workers, your schoolmates, they are women you see every day when you go out into the world. These women come from all different age groups, races, socio-economic levels and religions. So with all these women undergoing this common medical procedure, why isn't there more support for women after an abortion, to discuss their experience? Why so few support groups to talk about your physical and emotional issues afterwards? The fear of political or religious backlash, and the fear of negative reactions from friends or family keeps most women from discussing anything they feel after their abortion.

Recently I had a chat with a friend over tea. We randomly exchange thoughts on everything and anything, it was a good shared. We came across abortion of a human pregnancy. Previously I had a post on this after receiving an email from another friend. Well, today I would like to write on the post-abortion which most of the time people takes it for granted.

Certainly abortion is a no no, but under certain curcumstances, we never realise some people did abortion because they had to. It wasnt a choice given, but a choice that need to make. I couldnt agree any less it is a big mistake in doing so, its killing another life for our own bad, but I'm sure there lays reason in making that tough decision. As a women myself, listening conversation of other women experience and reading the stories of many who had made the decision sort of make me to think differently.

Its not that I encourage women to do abortion but for those who had no choice and are really sure of doing it, I think we as a public had neglect them. Just because they made the choice to not toucher the kid, we agrresively ignore them. Abortion is paralel to miscarriage, loosing or knowing our own blood gone, is very hard. A women need to be very tough especially in dealing the feeling of a lost.

To my understanding the women who had abortion is in need of help, as they are mentally, phsyically and emotionally disturb. Help in order to be strong, to be accepted. Just like drug users, they need favours after rehabilation. Because human beings sometime have negative stigma of drug user. This is where the problem kept running.

Loosing or knowing our own blood is gone, especially when one need to make the decision is tough. The process itself is crazy. To be put to sleep, and waking up only knowing its all gone. Beside, putting oneself life at a stake in failure of the process. In fact, to be more painful knowing one had to do it all by oneself with no support. Worst, one keep all the secret and pain by onself out of repect to the loved ones.

Thus, human being shouldnt neglect a women who had done abortion of a human pregnancy. They need support, trust and some respect. Never any mother's intention in killing its own kid, but life had brought them to that rough choice. Guide them, give them their space to breath, and lets hope it never happen again.

God always has his own reason. The least we can do is changing the future, by accepting the past.